- Don't tell them they are smart... tell them they worked hard.
- Don't praise them for being good at something... tell them they are getting better through practice.
- Don't tell them they are bad at something... tell them how to do it right.
I see a TON of me in this tremendous article. I recognise how my hesitency NOW in my professional life is directly related to how I think internally that it should be easy for me, so when it isn't something feels wrong.